Who am I
I am Neus Valencia, Integrative Relational Therapist
I have suffered several losses, throughout my life
Some I didn’t know they were such until I started training in grief and loss. It was then, with information and techniques, that I was able to heal old wounds and set myself free from the emotional burden. Also, I felt I could and should help other people trapped in the same labyrinth.
My passion are people and their processes of life
I create a bond with my patients that helps me to understand them, and support them in their most uncomfortable life experiences. By being non-judgemental and applying a compassionate way of looking, helps us look together at what is happening and do it differently and be able to access the life we want to live.
We form a team: small in the one-on-one sessions, and a bigger one in the group ones
My accumulated experience facilitates collaboration with other therapists, in learning more knowledge, to spread emotional wellbeing in order to make it available and at the service of people in their most vulnerable moments.
Interviews and Life
"Neus has supported me at two different stages of my life: first she helped me overcome a moment when I felt abandoned by my surroundings, and afterwards she was there to help me improve my level of consciousness and overcome an apathy and a phase of indifference. Both processes have been extraordinarily effective and comforting. I know that said like that I don’t transmit the happiness and desire to live that she has injected me, the magic in her words, the sweetness in the sessions or her ability to “see” beyond what one is saying. The fact is that I have objectively improved, I feel more empathetic and caring towards others, more peaceful and loving. This allows for things to go better with the family and work in a natural non-squeaky way. There is more, but it’s hard to describe in words, just as difficult as it is to describe color, heat or love… and it is a little bit of all that. Maybe it is enough to say she has helped me to be happy."
"What took me to Neus was the dissatisfaction with my previous psychologist because I didn’t notice any improvement. And although having to explain everything all over again and open old wounds was a stopper, I was convinced that was worth giving it a try again. What I found the heaviest and hardest to deal with at the time was the anxiety and grief from the breakup with my ex-partner. I was going through a very difficult time and being aware that I wasn’t making any progress was making it even worst. Now I notice I progress little by little. I learn something new in every session. I even take notes on the advice she gives me in order to use them when I need it. I am very happy to have Neus as a therapist because she has been able to give me what nobody else managed to do and it is so much as to listen to me, give me advice, explain to me how our brain works, recommend videos about the subjects we talk about and make me see that I need to give myself permission to not be ok, something that I’ve always found difficult."
"I’d been needing help for a while but I was too weak to confront my own story: I would need to look there and open old wounds that were causing me so much pain and that was scaring me. I arrived to my first session broken, worn down, lacking motivation or hope, insecure, disoriented, alone, and very tired. The emotional dependency I felt for my expartner was as heavy as the unbearable feeling of loss and failure. I needed to release that weight, remove the sentiment of guilt and feel at peace with myself. I was able to achieve that with Neus and thanks to her, the only professional that has sat with me on the floor while I was crying inconsolably. "
"The fear of loss and the incapacity to cope has always been present in my life, from material loss to bereavement for loved ones. On some occasions I have been a slave to experiences, people or projects that didn’t make me happy or where not coherent with my way of being. In other situations, fear would limit my joy for love in an unconscious way. Was at the time that I related fear to the inability to love fully and in depth that I thought I needed help because living like that is not to fully live. I was feeling too lazy to take on one more therapy because I have done hundreds of them and because what I needed at that time was to feel understood intellectually, phyco-emotionally and even spiritually. Neus, you provided me with an experience that encompassed all the levels that I needed to take on, embrace and understand. My process was going beyond healing, since it was by the means of it that I was redefining myself as a person completely. As a professional, as a son, as a brother, as a lover. You provided me with the appropriate listening because your way of listening was not only judgement free and with absolute understanding but also coated with love and profound and very moving unconditional acceptance. You give methods and tools because you know well what you’re doing on the practical side of things, but your human and therapeutical experience go beyond the tangible. The process with you allows to leave no stone unturned, nothing in the dark, nothing forgotten. Everything in your process counts. Work, love, family, beliefs, the past, the present, the here and the afterlife. Currently I feel fear persists, that it is still part of my personality, something rooted in my DNA, but now I manage it differently."
Who I was
I worked on Wall Street as a Financial Analyst
I graduated with a BS in Business Administration and Economics at the Universitat de Barcelona and at Juniata College (PA - USA) thanks to a scholarship program. After an intense professional experience in the heart of NY financial district I returned to my home town, Barcelona, and “devoted” myself to the business and management systems consulting sector. For 20 years I worked and travelled with Spanish, American and European multinational companies. Always learning, always adapting to new points of view, new cultures. I had it all.
Having it all was one day no longer enough
My inner emptiness was very present. I was wondering what was the purpose of everything that I was doing. So, I decided to go search for the answer. I parked my job and I placed a bet on my life. In the path towards introspection, appeared the Masters for Personal Development and Leadership. It was a treat because, from then on, I trained in various disciplines that have helped me to understand myself, love myself, let myself be and simply trust. I began to lead my life.
My Education up to now
Masters in Personal Development and Leadership at UB
Master Practitioner in Neurolinguistic Programming (AEPNL)
Training in Counseling Loss and End of Life Processes at Fundació Ambit
Postgraduate and Master’s Degree in Integrative Relational Psychotherapy applied to Counseling and Grief, Loss and Trauma Intervention at UB with Alba Payàs
Training in Eriksonian Hypnosis with Anna Flores
Program in Relational, Biological and Transgenerational Bases for the Psychopathology and Psychotherapy.
Level 1 – Sensorimotor Psychotherapy for the Treatment of Trauma – Affective Dysregulation, Survival Responses and Trauma Memory. Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute
Training in Family Constellations with Cristina Lozano